Do you ever start doing something and then say, “I’ll do it later?”
Do you sometimes get aggravated at all you have to do and then don’t do any of it because it’s overwhelming?
If that sounds like you, then you’re in a space of what I call “the Maybe Later Hat On Mentality.”
If you think you’ll get it done later, you probably will, but it may be a slow process.
That’s like in relationships, we often put ourselves off, thinking our friend, partner, boss, associate will eventually “get it” and know what we want and need.
But, sadly, that never happens.
We go around feeling hurt, depressed, and bad about ourselves wishing they would change their ways.
But, they never do.
So what are we supposed to do?
Well, modern standards say it’s okay to let go of old relationships… but is going to that extreme the right way to go about things?
It could be time if you’ve told this person countless times how you feel and they still haven’t changed… and you still feel bad and hurt about their behavior.
If you haven’t communicated to them yet about how their behavior is affecting you, then it’s time to start.
Mind reading is one of the most dangerous relationship killers.
No one can read our friend’s, partner’s, associates’, boss’ minds 24/7. What pain does for us is to tell us what we need and want and we must communicate that to others.
It is our responsibility to say how we feel, what we need from our partner, and to take care of those things for ourselves.
Sometimes we expect too much from others than what they can give.
So being in touch with how you are feeling is important and if you let your feelings stack up by pushing them down, and dealing with them later, then it’s a recipe for disaster.
Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but one day you may lash out or call it quits on a relationship, or seek another relationship before you even talked to your partner about what is going on between you two.
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